There are numerous types of relationships, such as social, familial, intimate, romantic, acquaintance, and personal, all of which affect and are affected by your experience of chronic pain. Your relationships are not only an outward manifestation and an indicator of your overall state of balance; they also affect your state of balance either negatively or positively. This is why the relationships we choose are so important. Living with chronic pain and/or addiction is guaranteed to result in relationship problems. While your tendency might be to jump right in and fix your relationships, we caution you that attempting quick fixes will only result in further imbalance. Resist the urge to work on your relationships, and keep the focus on yourself. As you work on your recovery, your relationships will become more balanced. The best way to resolve relationship issues is through slow, incremental changes based on your desire to achieve balance. Although it may sound selfish to you, now is the time for you to receive what you need. This blog post is an excerpt from Pain Recovery – How to Find Balance and Reduce Suffering from Chronic Pain by Mel Pohl, MD, FASAM, Frank Szabo, LADC, Daniel Shiode, PhD, Robert Hunter, PhD; Published by Central Recovery Press (CRP).